Friday, June 08, 2007


If you're in a lifeboat, how many people can you take on board before you sink it? Do you give away your paddle so they have something to hang onto?

How do you support someone without taking on their burden?

Just curious.


Rachel said...

Oh good criminy! That is one of life's conundrums. An online friend of mine blogged about this also recently and the consensus of comments were - you already know where to draw the line between survival and helping someone else or you wouldn't be asking. Think about the flying instructions. Put the breath mask over your own face first, then over your child's.

Everyone has their own limits. Do what you can do to carry what you can carry, but otherwise, you gotta take care of yourself first. Otherwise, you won't be able to be there later - for yourself or anyone else.

Am I making any sense?


The T-Dude said...

I have always hoped that in the moment it becomes clear what is and is not worth dying for...or maybe I just don't want to have to think about it before hand.

Carolyn said...

The answer to your question can't. Even if you make a vow not to shoulder any of a friend's burden you still do if you are really their friend. That's why it's good to have lots of friends! You can give all your problems away to them little by little leaving you completely burdenless! Let them take care of your problems for you...that's what friends are for! Another alternative? Get some friends who are well versed in meaningless pithy sayings like, "Let go and let God," which is just another way of saying, "Shut up, I don't want to deal with you and your stupid problems." Anyway, if you have friends like that then you can forget about your burdens and concentrate your efforts on being pissed at them.